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Is your relationship full of petty bickering? these 3 underlying triggers could explain why

interdependence personal develop relationships Sep 22, 2021

Couples fight all the time in relationships.  But sometimes these fights can feel different.  They can feel like they’re flaring up out of thin air.  When couples start frequently fighting for no reason, it’s because there are deeper subliminal issues plaguing the relationship.

The only way to find peace again, is to read between the lines, and figure out the actual root-causes of tension.  This requires reflection, determination, and therapy.


Make love, not war

 “Understanding relationship disagreement on a detailed level is critically important due to increasing rates of divorce/infidelity, the potential for relationship dissatisfaction, abuse/domestic violence, and the negative impact on children and society. Getting granular about disagreement, and dealing with it before it escalates, makes relationships much more stable,” explains Psychiatrist/Psychoanalyst Dr. Grant Hilary Brenner. 


Here are a few common root-causes of gratuitous fights in relationships


Feelings of exploitation

Sometimes mutual respect falls out of balance in relationships.  And whenever this happens, one partner will feel used and abused.  Couples need to always make sure that compromises and sacrifices are shared 50/50 between both partners. Relationships are give-and-take; not take and take.

Being ridiculed

There isn’t a couple in the world that doesn’t like to make each other laugh.  But when jokes are taken too far, feelings will get hurt.  Never allow things like pranks and roasting to turn into emotional torment.  When people get made fun of for too long, they can become traumatized into spitefulness.

Basic misunderstandings

A lot of times, the bad opinions that people develop about one another are a direct result of crossed-wires.  Blunders can get taken out of context, people can jump to conclusions, and mountains get made out of molehills.  This is why it’s so important for couples to practice healthy communication.  Emotional intimacy prevents the type of resentment that incites quarreling.



Fighting and arguing in relationships is a warning sign.  It’s like a blinking light on the dashboard of a car.  Whenever an argument erupts in your relationship, always take the time to process through it after the fact.  If the disagreement doesn’t feel superficial, chances are there needs to be some extra effort put into reconciliation. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative courses, workshops and events listed on our websites and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (800) 913-0222 to find out how Now Rise can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.